Information, resources and reassurance for new parents navigating the highs and lows of life with a baby

The birth of a first baby is one of the biggest life transitions an adult will experience. Major life changes are always accompanied by mixed feelings and most parents feel under-equipped for the tasks of infant care and managing a household with a baby.

This website contains information about common experiences in the early months of parenthood and some effective ways of thinking about and managing them.

All information on this website is drawn from up-to-date research and the experiences of many parents of new babies. We hope that you find the site helpful as you learn to live with your first baby.

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This site is not a substitute for advice from your family doctor or another health professional.

If you feel sad, worried, or irritable most of the time, then it is important to talk to your family doctor.

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Expectations of motherhood

Adjusting to life with a new baby is enormously challenging and it can take time. Having realistic expectations of what pregnancy and motherhood involve can help women adjust to life with a new baby. This article will provide common misconceptions surrounding pregnancy and motherhood, along with some strategies that may be useful during this time.

I can't get sick

I’ve had a sore throat and fever for the past couple of days, Ari is also unwell as he has been unsettled and waking every two hours over night wanting to be cuddled all the time.

Don't cry over spilt milk

I never understood the expression "don't cry over spilt milk" until now. I accidentally left expressed frozen milk bars on the bench and they defrosted. I was furious with myself and the fact I couldn't re-freeze breast milk. I found myself seeking comfort through google.